Girls become Daughters first and then Mothers !
Just wanted to begin with being a Daughter first:)
Like every normal girl, I was always excited about marriage and fascinated it right from the childhood days. I never thought beyond that I would spend life happily, rejoicing with my prince charming. I fantasied a beautiful world full of enjoyment just as my innocent childhood.
But today, when I am married, I realize that marriage is not a bed of Roses. Its not just about being with your prince charming and have a gala time. There is so much more to it, much beyond that small fascination. Marriage has its own share of responsibilities, duties, sacrifices, compromises and yes happiness.
I can’t wake up anytime I wish to, I have a set of responsibilities to do, off course which I love doing.
I am expected to be up and ready before everyone else in the family to give them a glorified day.
I can’t laze around in my shorts or pyjamas throughout the day.
I am expected to be presentable every time.
I can’t just go out anytime I wish to, I need to work as per schedules of family members.
I am supposed to be sensitive to the needs of family.
It is assumed that I will be active full day and be around the family.
I can’t expect myself to be treated like a princess (like my dad’s place) but I am supposed to take care of everyone in the family now.
I need to love all, despite I get counter love from all or not.
So why did I marry?
And then, my grey matter juggles up and asks to my soul, “Why did I get married after all”? I was much happier at my dad’s place like a princess. I was happy to put my head in my mom’s lap. My soul wants to come back to you mom and dad and get pampered all over again for the remaining life.
I want to come home to relish my favourite meal cooked by you. I want to have that time to get a nice outing with friends and come back home only to be pampered and not to think of the pending tasks. I want to sleep in your lap without any worries of this life.
There’s a realization!
But then, suddenly I realize that how did my life come into this world? Had you, mom not gotten married and made such sacrifices in your life, I wouldn’t have had these wonderful memories to clutch by all through my life. Suddenly, the purpose of life starts getting clear – to return the same happiness, comfort and love to the new family and my kid.
And I’m sure that as the time passes, I would start loving this life just as equally as you do despite the ride being tough. Thank you dear parents for all the compromises and sacrifices you both made for your children. They have given me the counter strength to lead my married life with a new family.
This was just a small note to how a Daughter’s world changes to a Wife’s and then to a Mother’s role! How with every day passing, I’m relating to this world more beautifully.
Starting a family definitely take compromise and sacrifice, but don’t forget to take some time for yourself as well! Everyone needs a day to laze around in pyjamas once in a while 🙂
Thanks for the tip, yes need to have my time as well!
This is such a sweet post. Yes, I’m always a daughter to my parents. They were fantastic parents. I hope my daughter feels the same.
wow, that was really sweet & M sure Natalie shall feel the same:)
Family is so important, so it’s important that everyone takes care of each other, and is also allowed time to take care of themselves
It’s nice to hear from mothers of daughters on what they think while their child is growing up. I have two boys, and I can only hope that they turn out just like their father.
Thanks for sharing your journey! I hope my daughter feels the same way after she starts her family. I know I will ways been my parents daughter.
Aww that’s sweet, your daughter shall feel so, i’m sure:)
This is very interesting perspective on the role of a daughter, wife, and mother. It’s not an easy road but it’s certainly rewarding!
That’s correct, its a beautiful reward:)
Very beautiful thoughts!
Having a daughter definitely has its challenges, but in a good way for sure! I am so happy we decided to start a family. Thanks for sharing your journey ?
This was so sweet and so true. I have a son but always secretly wanted a daughter. There’s just a bond they have with their moms that is just amazing.
That’s so true, I see that between my niece and her mom, its so beautiful bond
Thanks for sharing your beautiful thoughts with us… 🙂
I can completely relate to your post. I have 2 daughters and I agree that it is the best relationship. Daughters are so loving and cheerful. They change us completely. Good one.
I can relate. i have one daughter. I love our special relationship.
Such a sweet post. I have 2 daughters and hope they feel the same way when they are adults 🙂
I am an only child so, even though I’m married now, I’m still my parents daughter. In fact, I talk to my parents almost every day!
Family is definitely important. Friends come and go, but family is always there. I will always be a daughter
Marriage is wonderful and different. Assisting a wonderful family and having memories of childhood
Family is everything. The smallest unit of society. If there is discord in the family, there will be discord in the community. I am fortunate to have a closely knit family. My mom lives two blocks away from me and I make sure I check on her everyday. I need to make sure she is taking her medicines and that she is okay. Mom is 79 years old and she is still pretty active.I will and never cease to be her daughter.
Wow, M so happy to know that you visit her daily and care for her smallest things. She would be a very happy mom!
What a sweet post! Girls are first daughter and then (maybe) mothers but they’ll always be little princesses inside, right? And even though sometimes is hard, I bet it’s worth every second being a mom and seeing your kid smile.
Oh yes, M yet my daddy’s little princess and he still treats me like that:).
What a heartfelt post and really well summed up. Women have to play many roles in life and most are the main cog in a family who keeps everything in order and smooth running by sacrificing their own needs and pleasures.
Indeed, rightly said. Women are champs in all directions!
A very lovely post, means a lot specially me being a mother to a daughter.
This is a great read about motherhood. There is so much truth to it. I wish I woke up before everyone else. Still working on that even 11 years into being a mum. LOL
I don’t have any children but definitely appreciate all that my mom has done for me. I don’t think people realize just how much their parents have sacrificed for them, including their own time and sometimes dreams.
Lovely post! Family is so important and something we all want to have and belong to. Being first a daughter then a mother is the way life goes.
Reading your post reminds me about the cultural differencies in the world. How we are live differently. I live in a society that no matter single or married a women get to walk in pyjamas all day is she wants! ? Sometimes my husband cooks and sometimes he does the laundry. But yes I do them more often than him but thats because I am not really working but he does. He works 80% so he get to have 1 day of work being with out daughter.
But I know that in some culture being a wife and a mum is expected to behave in a certain way. That say, I am sure just reading of your post you are a wonderful and wife! You might do mistake sometimes but atleast you do your best! Your family must love you very much!❤️
You have touched the cord and mentioned being a daughter in such a beautiful way
Really thought provoking post… Loved reading it! No Matt what you do, take time out for yourself.. you deserve the me time.. ❤
No doubt daughters are soul of a family. Also It’s important to give some credit to yourself for running things so smoothly. Just chillax
A ‘Me time ‘ is equally important so you treat yourself now like a ‘Queen’ so everyone else would. Being a princess at Mumma Papa’s House was an unparalleled experience. Now it’s our turn to make our kids feel like Prince and Princess and Hubby like a King being a Queen of our kingdom!!
Being a girl i could exactly feel the way you have expressed so beautifully here in your writing
It is a beautiful journey. And I am happy to come into this world as a girl.
I also have a daughter. My reading your post I feel I m blessed
Beautiful thoughts and such an amazing post.
This post is so touchingly beautiful!! Being the only daughtet i totally get this
Absolutely agree with you Minakshi. Daughter is a blessing in earth
Marriages are not always sweet like a pie but it also brings along its varied experiences… A daughter will always be close to her parents no matter how far she is… be it physical distance or even emotional… Loved your post. Thanks for sharing. 🙂
This is such a touchy post. You’re right, Family is so important. Our raising kids are the best blessings that we have.
Tanks!
I so agree with you and your thoughts, thanks for jotting this down!
This is such a touchy post, Daughter are special. Love each and every part of this post. To begin with the life’s journey daughters take…
Having a daughter is like blessing. This is such a heartfelting post .love it..
What a post. In simple words, you explain the marriage. nice presentation of sentences. Thank you